"How are you doing?" is the least of my worries. For the past several years when a friend or family member asks "How is your job?", I answer honestly, sometimes slightly sugar coated if I'm feeling positive that day, and always feel like I've just had an unpleasant bowel movement. But, what I've come to realize is that I am the problem. I chose this path. When I've had problems at a job, it is a result of not leaving it and making the choice to take it in the first place. Now, many of the details you don't learn until after you take it, but I would have had the same general idea what it would have been like had I taken the time to really think about it. I look forward to a time when I can find something that I'm great at, that I love doing, and I love how and where I do it. But, despite all the books I read and positive things said on HN and elsewhere- I haven't found it yet, and really I would love to give up feeling shitty because I can't find it. So, while I'm still honest that things aren't perfect, it mights me realize each time I say what is going on that I have more work to do to set things right, and I just don't know exactly how to do that. For entrepreneurs and freelancers, most of the problems are inevitable, but there is a lot of help out there for you if you look. For those of us with regular jobs, no one will hold our hands to find answers.